It's done...

Well it finally happened... I got "kicked-out" of my house. Not officially, but basically... what happened was I wrote my parents a couple of letters telling them that I changed the date, and that I would like my mom to be my escort in the temple, and asking my dad to be my witness... it took them about a week to answer my letters... and I got a long response back (I am not going to put it all, because some of it doesn't need to be shared):

You and Jesse have not listened to even one piece of counsel you’ve received from me or your mother from the beginning and have dishonored our words and testimonies on this matter. I’m very disappointed on the lack of faith you and Jesse have shown in us and especially your father in heaven. You have broken our hearts and hurt the trust that we have shared with you with all our lives.

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Your mother and I talked, cried, and prayed all this week and have prayerfully come to agreement on some life decisions that we feel you should know about. Though we will never let you go hungry or without shelter, we feel that if you are ready to take on marriage and family life, even at such a young age and before the Lord’s time, that you need to take on all the responsibilities that come with that. This is just life; it’s the way I had to do it and the way most adult children have to do it as they leave their families and start a life on their own. We are simply handing you the life that you are insisting on at this time.

You will now be responsible for your life maintenance and your education, so you’ll need to look into pell grants and loans to finish that, but I strongly caution you to never use credit cards (live on rice and beans before you ever dive into credit cards).

Here’s a list of other items that we need to remedy:

1. CAR: We’ll be signing your car over to you by April 30^th. That means you need insurance by May 1^st.

2. BANK ACCOUNT: You need to take mom off your bank account

3. GAS CARD: We’ll need our gas card back immediately

4. CELL PHONE: We’re in the mode of changing our family plan on the cell phones. Your phone will be invalid starting April 30^th so you need to look into getting your own plan and a new phone number (unless you stay with Team Mobile on a new plan by yourself or with Jesse).

5. DENTAL/MEDICAL: Once you’re married, we are required to report it immediately and the insurance company will take you off. If you need dental care and the required medical exam for marriage, you need to take care of that ASAP while you have coverage with us.

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Now I understand that a lot of this is reality, and the truth; I do need to learn to do these, but it shouldn't be shoved onto me before i'm married. It should come naturally. I don't really know how to explain how I feel right here, but to me this is a sign of cutting me off, before necessary. Well, none the less, I am not going back there. This week I am taking some people with me and I am going to pack up all my stuff that is there in that house and move it out. I will either live in Boe and Jamie's house, or Mariah's house; I'm still trying to decide what would be best.

Now about my car, it will be signed over to me by April 30th, so after that I am just going to park it until August when we can get insurance, and start to afford something like that. My bank account, I will just take my mom off, and place jesse there instead. With the gas card, Jesse's family said they would help me out for this last month that I need it to get to school. My cell phone will work until April 30th, and then I don't really need it because I will live close to Jesse, and I won't have to worry about letting him know I'm home. With dental and medical, I will definitely need to set up an appointment with the OB before I get married (yikes)... and stuff... not sure if I need anything else. Now for my education, I'm am definitely not sure how I am going to do that, but I will have to see... I may have to talk to school counselors before we move to Buhl... to see if they can help me figure out how to get grants, and scholarships, and such.

Well I suppose I will put my response to my parents on here so you will understand why I am a tad bit scared of their reaction again, but this time there isn't really much to be scared of because they can't do anything else to me. Well here you go:

Dad,

There are a few things you need to think about as long as were being open and honest. Even though I realize that you think I am immature and too young to know or feel anything. You talk about respect, you say I show you none. I say you show my thoughts and my feelings no consideration what so ever. As your daughter and as God's daughter, I deserve my thoughts and my own answers from the Lord to be valued. I feel I have shown you respect, I have considered your thoughts. I have prayed about your thoughts. I have prayed deeply about what is the best thing for me to do. You dismiss that, and insist everything you feel and everything you think is more important. Since you are now basically cutting me off, emotionally, spiritually, and temporally, maybe you should consider what it will do to our relationship.

1. You refuse to help or honor my decision in any way. So that leaves me to plan the wonderful day that I am so exicted for by myself. Without any love or concern from my mother or Father that this is the happiest day of my life.

2 you refuse a basic tradition of helping with the wedding at all. Of course The Flints dont want their son and future wife to be neglected, so what does that leave for them to think about you?

3. All of this emotional turmoil with you and mom have left me scared to even come home. What does that say for any future realtionship with our family and my kids. How will you explain how you have treated me to them? At this point I will ask you for as little help as possible, but don't insist that you love me. I feel none.

Your Daughter

Well, there it is... Jamie helped me write it, well actually I helped her write it... she wrote it all down (mainly it's what I wanted to say, but didn't have the guts to actually do it). The sad thing is, I still want to have my mom help me on the pictures for my slideshow, but I don't know if she will. I at least want some of the pictures she has so I can scan it on the computer.

Well that's the update, oh and we are thinking of doing the Open house at a reception center in Clinton, but we're not sure... we will go look at it soon and see what we can do. Well, farewell!